How to Empower Yourself & Take Control of Your Thoughts

HOW, do you become the person you were meant to be?

Actions are what separate people from who they are and who they want to be. You can find some form of a road map through a couple of minutes of searching online for anything you want to learn how to do in life. Want to learn how to bake the perfect cookie? Google it. Need to know how to fix your sink? YouTube it. The “how” isn’t the problem. It’s the lack of action. Start living the life of the person you want to be. Do the things they would do. Don’t do the things they wouldn’t do. It’s exactly as simple and as complicated as that. 

Be Authentic. Have Vision. Don’t Give up. Believe in yourself. Override the self-doubt.

The first step I like to teach my clients is to take a look at their limiting beliefs. So, you ask, what are limiting beliefs? Sounds easy enough to describe what they are, but usually they are embedded in the way we speak, from the time we get up in the morning until we go to sleep, and even in our dreams at times, from the depths of the subconscious. These beliefs are etched so deep in our brains that we think about them without even realizing it.

Limiting beliefs are those which constrain us in some way. Just by believing them, we do not think, do or say the things that they inhibit. And in doing so we limit our lives.

If you don’t change your limiting beliefs, your life will be the way it is right now forever. Is that good or bad news to you?

I start by having my clients go through the day and start to become aware of their limiting beliefs.  Awareness is the key.

Your behavior is an indicator of your beliefs.

Consider how you’re doing in the following areas:

  • Finances. Are you feeling financial pressure in your life? Do you have all the things you need or really want? How much money do you have in savings? Is debt overwhelming you and consuming your life? Do you have the income you desire? Is that income secure?
  • Relationships. Are your relationships satisfying? Are they fulfilling? Are you staying in them out of comfort, or because you truly want to continue to build and nourish them? Consider your intimate relationship as well as your relationships with your family, friends, and co-workers. Often times we keep toxic relationships in our lives because we are scared to make a change or let go of what has become familiar.
  • Health. Are you taking good care of yourself? Do you drink enough water? Take vitamins? Do you go to the doctor regularly for checkups? Do you exercise not only for your physical health but for mental clarity and as a source of stress relief? Even a simple 10-15-minute walk outdoors each day can change your whole mindset.
  • Fun & Adventure. Are you doing the things you really want to do? Do you dream of going overseas but haven’t been yet? Do you want to learn to play the guitar but never have? Are you waiting for the “right” moment to take the leap? Do you often find yourself thinking another year has gone by and you still haven’t truly focused on that area of your life that you want to change? ⁣⁣⁣
  • Any other aspect of your life in which you’re experiencing dissatisfaction. Think about any other areas of your life where you’re less than satisfied. If you’re not pleased with your life, a limiting belief could be the cause.

Next, identify the beliefs that are contributing to your challenges.  Make a list of all of your beliefs, good and bad, regarding the challenges you identified above.

Don’t attempt to filter them as positive or negative while carrying out this process — just get them all listed as you brainstorm and examine them later.

Here’s a short example around money:

  • I’ll never be wealthy.
  • Money is limited.
  • I’ll never have enough money to buy the nice things I want.
  • If I’m rich, people will try to steal from me.
  • My friends will treat me differently if I have a lot of money.
  • The rich get richer while the poor get poorer.

Can you see why it would be difficult to make a lot of money if you believe these things?

Here’s the thing, if you believe any of these or similar beliefs then you have to do some work in order to change the way, you think about money. Ultimately these beliefs are shaping how you handle your financial life and in turn your reality become aligned with them.

Finding out your limiting beliefs is an easy process, and you can do it whenever you have spare time. On a jog, while you’re walking your dog, as you’re brushing your teeth, or even as a nightly 10-minute practice before you go to bed at night. Here’s a tip on how to do it: Complete these two sentences to find your beliefs about money:

1. I’m not financially free, because ___________.


2. I’d love to have more money, but ___________.

You can use words such as “because” and “but” for exposing your limiting beliefs for any situation, as they show the true reason/doubt you feel for why you cannot achieve your goals.

So, now that you know how to do it, I challenge you to try to come up with supporting beliefs about money as in the 10 examples above and overwrite the old limiting beliefs with affirmations.

Example:

Limiting Belief: “Money is limited because I will never find a good paying job”

Empowering Belief: “I am a money magnet. Money flows to me naturally and freely without resistance. There is always enough money in my life.”

Now you can see how when you set limits and restrictions on your mindset it becomes impossible to manifest the very life you are yearning so badly to create for yourself. Here is the most important thing to remember about limiting beliefs: so often they are so ingrained in our day to day life and the habits we have, that we don’t even realize we are thinking them!

Become aware of your mindset. Focus on the thoughts that surround the areas of your life you’d like to strengthen or enhance, set intentions…then watch your biggest hopes and dreams come to life before your very eyes!

Sending you abundance and blessings,

Heather