What happens when your life is not working anymore? You know you want things to change and you know you need to take steps that will propel you forward… but how do you identify WHO it is you now want to become?

Making big changes in our lives can leave us vulnerable and open to potential hurt. But it is necessary in order for us to truly live a life filled with intention, purpose and most important: love.

When our lives aren’t working and the people in them are fading or we are fighting with them constantly and we realize change is upon us, that is usually when the you-know-what hits the fan.

We can never become who we are meant to be, if we can’t get a clear vision of that person.

Unfortunately, the human species has a pattern of not knowing that they really want until they find out what they truly don’t want!

I want you to take a look at who you are now. Are you happy? Do you feel like you are where you are meant to be? Are there any “should have, could have, would have’s” that you think about often? We will never know what we want, until we absolutely know what we don’t want.

The first step is to write down on a piece of paper a vision of who you see yourself as down the road. If you have always wanted to learn how to play the piano, write it down. If you’ve always wanted to be an astronaut, write it down. If you want to completely change career fields and flip your whole entire life on its head, WRITE. IT. DOWN.

You see, writing it down on paper makes it real. It brings your thoughts to life. And when you physically create the sentences and scribble the words, you’re manifesting the life you’ve always dreamed of right before your very eyes.

My story of who I want to become goes something like this: I own a very successful business with my husband and it has been a rewarding company that has taught me so much. I am grateful. I am proud. I love my life. But since the age of 19 I have had this deep longing to help people find their power deep within and become the best version of themselves. 

I wanted to start a business doing that, but what did that even look like? 

Well, I started doing a vision board and I put the things that most interested me about what I wanted to do for my dream job. I wanted to help people, but how? Coaching… writing books, speaking to groups, teaching people tools to help themselves… and the list went on. As I started putting it all down on paper, I could start to see clearer vision of who I wanted to become. Then I would keep adding to it. The more I thought about what I wanted, I just put it down on the vision board – nothing was too big or too small and nothing was set in stone. It was my time of creativity.

What I started noticing, was that the more I was creating who I wanted to be, the more I saw that I wasn’t that far off from the best version of me. There were some steps I needed to take to get there, like going to school to become a coach and putting in the long hours of practice coaching over 300 people.  But there is nothing that doesn’t require some work to get to where you want to be! Some assembly is required!

So, the next time you feel the longing…the call for something more…something deeper…don’t be afraid to answer.