When it comes to fear, I’m not a huge fan, honestly. I know it is a basic human emotion we all have to one degree or another. And I realize, too, that fear is necessary for the animal kingdom just to preserve life. We come equipped with the survival instincts necessary to respond with fear when we sense danger, in order to protect us and keep us out of harm’s way.
But what if I said fear is necessary for the direction you take in your life as well?
Let’s be real – it’s a scary thing to become vulnerable enough to set in motion a vision you have for your life. When you are filled with creative ideas that come from deep within, and you know those ideas are from Spirit and will help the world, one has to put these ideas on display. There’s some fear behind that, as Heather and I are finding out on our journey together. I’m sure you have felt this at some level, as well. I’m at the point in life now where I say “what that heck! What have I got to lose?” And what’s the fear? That I’ll fail at this? That someone might think I’m a kook? That someone won’t agree with what I teach or write about? Yes, I’ve faced that fear – The ‘what will people think’ fear. Do you have that one too? Then I turn it around and ask “but what if I succeed in this endeavor? What if thousands flock to Back to Eden and we can’t fit everyone in the door and can’t humanly keep up with the work and the studying and the teaching!!” That’s wonderfully fearful :-). And just like pottery, if fear is the fire that turns the clay into a porcelain vase, we become a thing of beauty.
So maybe instead of pushing it away, we can ask fear “what are you trying to teach me?” What if we embraced our fears, almost as a friend, and really examined it or welcomed it into our life with open arms? My kids laugh at me sometimes and call me “stepping-stone Becky” because I usually look at uncomfortable or fearful life situations as stepping-stones to the next phase. This is one way to use fear in a positive direction. It causes us to make the changes necessary to move forward – or move away from.
Setting up a chair for unrealistic fears is yet another thing. And I’ve certainly done that over my lifetime. All I have to say to that to sit in fear is such a waste of God given energy and time. It can cause paralyses and endless anxiety. We ruminate about all the things that could go wrong. Then the body takes it on. Where do you feel fear in your body? I feel it in my gut, and my throat.
I’d like to say I conquered most of my fears. Many I have. But then this fearful thought comes up and says “yeah, your life is pretty good right now…just wait till the other shoe drops.” Talk about whack-a-mole.
Here’s the thing. Living a consciously aware life means taking a good look at all the emotions we feel. Sorting them out, keeping those that are helpful, those that bring us joy. It means examining those emotions that no longer serve us, such as unrealistic fears, and letting them go.
I said earlier that I’m not a huge fan of fear – I’d rather live my life not from a place of fear, but the opposite – which is from a place of Love. But even as I write this, I realize the importance of this basic human emotion, and am learning to understand its necessity.
If you’re living your life from an unrealistic place of fear, here are a few tips to work through your fears and begin to live the life you were meant to live:
- Allow yourself to sit with your fear for two to three minutes. Breathe with it. Notice your heartbeat. Be still in the discomfort. Then become very present in your body. Repeat to yourself, “I’m ok. I’m safe.” Breathe in peace, exhale all negativity and anxiety. Do this until you begin to relax.
- As soon as you realize you’re in a fearful state, begin to write down all the things you are grateful for. Really take time to think about each one. Elaborate on each individual thing you are grateful for. Smile…a real true, genuine smile.
- Move your energy. Exercise. Go for a walk. Get into nature. Dance to your favorite music. Read. Call a friend.
- Use humor to deflate your fears. YouTube has numerous hilarious videos to watch. Lighten up. This really helps me, because I love to laugh. Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural “feel good” chemicals. I just love a good laugh!! And I know you do, too!
Did you know that “do not fear” is the most repeated phrase in scripture? It’s in there over 200 times. Which means to me that we are not to spend our days preoccupied with anxiety and worry. Our minds are not to be clouded by fear. Even in our darkest days, we are reminded to “be not afraid”, because we are loved. We are protected. We are guided. We are comforted. We are never alone. Do not fear….